Thoughts on Raising Kids
No Action Too Small ...
Like many people, I didn't realize how significant "family" was until I had my children. Before then, I had been a bit of a gypsy, traveling around Canada, my home country, and the United States, looking for fun, adventure and, well, myself. In law school, I found a community of like-minded people (well, most of them) with whom I shared amazing moments that remain amazing memories today. Many of them are still close to my heart and in touch on a semi-regular basis.
When my son was born, however, I was astonished by how vulnerable he was, and how vulnerable I was as a new mother. No longer able to be the independent, "doin'-it-my-way" self-determined woman that I always thought myself to be, I was now reliant on my husband and his family members to provide many of the perks and graces of life that I had previously provided for myself.
I stopped working, too, for the first time since I was 15, and no longer earned my own income. That was a challenge because I had always defined myself as "dependent on no one" kind of person. It took some time to relax into the notion that I was perfectly entitled to stay home and cuddle my angel. His father was as certain as I was that it was the right thing to do, and, looking back, I don't regret a single day of being there for him and his sister, when she arrived two years later.
That twinkling time of diapers, Little League, and high school dances came to an end all too soon for me, as both my children went out into the world at the tender age of 18 years. As I've heard from many people, my children were well prepared to take on their first worldly challenges at that age, and they've never felt the need to return home for more "mothering." I'm very proud of them, and I'm very proud of how my husband and I raised them. They are exactly who they want to be, with all the manners, intelligence, and skills they need to achieve great things.
A number of people have asked me how my children turned out so well and for advice on how to raise their own to be similarly competent. This section of the website is intended to share my insights on that task, as well as a few skills I learned along the way. Take from it what you will, and let me know if I can help, explain or otherwise respond to your queries about not killing your child before they reach adulthood.